Choosing a long-term romantic partner & building a healthy relationship – part 2

Choosing a long-term romantic partner

In almost every aspect of life, the key to be successful and to improve yourself is by having a clear goal. Whether you want to land a dream job, build a profitable business, raise a happy family, or save for retirement, you need a clear and specific goal to help you focus and achieve that goal.

The same thing goes with building a lasting relationship. Before we step into a serious relationship, we need to understand ourselves and what kind of relationship we want to be involved in.

One of the most important things—yet a lot of people fail to plan—when you want to enter a serious and long-term partnership, is to determine your standards. What qualities you want from your romantic partner, and what behavior and values they have that you deemed important for you. 

The best way to do it is by having a detailed list of what we expect from our partner. Having a list will help you visualize your goal in your mind. This type of affirmation will guide you to reach a state of relationship that will fulfill you and fit your standard. Hopefully, this list will also help you evaluate and eventually weed out candidates that don’t fit your ideal. 

“If you can dream it, you can do it.”

Walt Disney
Choosing a long-term romantic partner

Choosing a long-term romantic partner: 6 things to consider 

Everyone says that seeing is believing. To have that happy and healthy relationship that you deserve, you must envision what type of relationship you want to be in, starting with imagining what type of partner you want to be with. Here are six things to consider when you build a list of qualities that you want from your romantic partner:

Background & lifestyle

How were they brought up, and in what kind of socioeconomic status? What do they like to do in their spare time? Is their lifestyle aligned with yours, or are you willing to adjust to theirs?


What are their life principles? What life values do to hold? Religious/non-religious? What do they think of commitment? What do they think of things that you deemed important, for example, career, life achievements, marriage, family?


Can you connect with them? Are they capable and willing to hold a meaningful conversation (not a trivial one) with you? Do you have a similar sense of humor? Are there any physical attractions going on? Does their sexual drive match with yours?

Emotional maturity

Can they show real emotions? How do they react in a situation of crisis? How is their relationship with their family?

Intellectuality & ambition

What interests this person? What do you want them to be excited about? Do they have a long-term goal for their life? Is it aligned with your goals?

Financial security

Do they have a stable income? Are they financially independent? Can they commit to share the responsibilities of making money? Do you have similar attitudes to managing money?

These basic questions will help you answer what are the things that you expect from your partner. Remember, you want a partner that will last a lifetime. There is no right or wrong. It all depends on your life values, principles, and behavior. Feel free to add more questions that you think suitable for you. When you can answer these questions, then you can create a checklist of your ideal partner. 

Last but not least, we have created a printable for you to build your own checklist for an ideal romantic partner. Grab our FREE PRINTABLE here:

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